Happy Wedding Wednesday!
How is your week going? Mine has been pretty good! It’s been a little busier than I expected, but I don’t mind because I love working on new content to share! 🙂 So, that’s actually a blessing in my book!
I can’t say enough how excited I am that you guys love Wedding Wednesday, too! It is SO fun reliving our special day and time of engagement and be able to share it with you! Even if you aren’t planning a wedding, sometimes it’s just fun to think about. I know I still love to see engagement and wedding stuff – I just love seeing two people loving each other so deeply they’re committing their lives to one another!
Anyways, today’s post is something I definitely struggled with at the first part of my engagement – what to splurge on and what to save on.
Honestly, I wanted to splurge on everything. I’ll just get that out there. BUT, we figured out really quickly that that is just not how it was going to work. haha.
So, I got real with myself and sat down and made a list of the things that were absolutely really important to me.
That list for me looked like this:
1.\\ My dress. I am not someone who has just always pictured my wedding day or what I’d wear. I actually come from a family with divorced parents, so if I’m being completely real and honest (which I always want to be), I just didn’t know if marriage was in the cards for me. I was really scared of it, truthfully.
But, then I met Cody, and I’ve mentioned in this post that, from then on, I just never imagined my life without him. We just kind of knew that was where we were headed pretty much from the get-go.
So, I say all that to say, I just hadn’t thought a lot about my wedding day other than the man I knew it would be with. I kind of wish I had thought about it a little more just because it made wedding planning a little overwhelming at times!
When I got engaged I started looking at tons of dresses online. I found out quickly that the dresses I really loved were going to be splurges, and I decided that was definitely an area I wanted to invest more in. It’s going to be in EVERY photo, so you want to love it. If that means saving on other areas, I was okay with it.
2.\\ Venues. Setting for me is so important, not just on my wedding day, but in everyday life, too. I vibe off of the places I’m in, and I knew the certain feeling I wanted to have for different times of the event, so for us, that meant we were going to need a few different venues: one to get ready at, one for the ceremony and one for the reception.
The place I got ready at was SO dreamy. If you are in the West Tennessee area, get in touch with me either on here (in the comments) or on instagram and I’ll be more than happy to tell you all about it. The room where my bridesmaids and I spent the morning was all white and had SO much natural light, so I had all the good vibes I wanted to start the day. Plus, we took our first look and wedding party photos there, and it had the most beautiful landscape even in winter! So, I knew I’d love the way those turned out with all of the pretty photo options it had!
For the ceremony we wanted a more traditional feel, and we just drove around a lot looking for places that would fit that. We found a chapel that would hold the large amount of people we were inviting, and it was perfect!
The reception feel we were going for was very classic. In our area there are mostly barn venues, which are absolutely gorgeous, but just weren’t what we were looking for. There is a gorgeous old hotel venue in our town that fit exactly what we were trying to achieve.
So, obviously we had quite a few places we wanted to include in our day, so venues definitely had to make the list of things to splurge on. If you and your fiancé(e) feel the same way, or maybe there’s just one you really love, but it’s super pricey, then just find other things to save on. Venue sets the tone for the event, so in my opinion, it’s an important thing that you might have to splurge on.
3.\\ Photography + Videography. I can’t stress enough how important this was to us. You’ve probably heard it a million times, but you just won’t remember your whole wedding day. It’s kind of a blur. I was intentional about soaking in moments, but still, it’s hard to relive those without seeing it in photos or a special video.
In my opinion, so much of weddings are done for other people. Food – you’re feeding your guests and may/may not be able to sit and eat it. Cake – you might get one bite. Decorations – you are not going to remember what every centerpiece looked like, neither will your guests, but they’ll at least be sitting at the table with it.
Photography and videography are two things that you are going to do for YOU. You’ll love those photos, you’ll cherish that video for ever and show it to your grandbabies one day. Spend the extra money. I promise you, you won’t regret that extra expense once you have those memories re-shared with you.
Those were my bigger ticket expenses, and once I had those defined everything else just kind of fell to a lower rung. Decorations – no one is going to care whether you spent $50 per centerpiece or $250. If you’re really trying to save, try some greenery or candles! I used a ton of candles to create ambiance and saved a lot of money that way.
Also, flowers. I am a flower LOVER. I’ll be the first to admit it. I go to buy fresh bouquets multiple times per week, so if you’re sitting there saying “no. I love flowers. I can’t skimp.” I GET IT. I said it, too. But, the bad/sad thing about it is that the next day when you leave for your honeymoon, you aren’t dragging all 700+ individual blooms on that plane with you. You just aren’t. So, yes, do a beautiful bridal bouquet and a few extras here and there, but don’t go overboard, I’d say. That’s a good one to save on, in my opinion.
Of course, everyone is different. No two weddings are alike because no two couples are alike. These are just the things we chose to save on or splurge on. The point is that you and your future bride or groom should sit down and decide those things together and make your budget accordingly.
Even if you’ve got an unlimited budget, it’s important to take a serious look at it and decide the most important things. At the end of the day, if it’s not important to you, don’t spend a ton on that certain thing.
Whew, this is a long one!
I would love to know what you chose/are choosing to splurge or save on! Did you think like me and go big on the dress? Or did you say “nope, this girl is going for the blooms.” and go extra on your florals?
I hope you have a great day!
All my love!