Happy, happy Wedding Wednesday!
I hope you are having the best day!
There have been SO many newly engaged girls reach out to me for advice on today’s topic!
Cody and I decided to write our own vows because we wanted to bring in our own personality to every detail of our wedding – we wanted it to be the most special and meaningful it could for both of us and for all of our family members and friends in attendance.
I think most people choose not to write personal vows because let’s face it, it can be pretty stressful, especially for those who don’t enjoy speaking in front of a lot of other people.
I will say, though, to have said our own special promises to one another on our day made all the jitters worth it. You’re going to just be nervous anyway, just because you’re getting married. It’s exhilarating and nerve-wracking all at the same time.
Everyone’s preferences are different, but I truly think if you’re looking for ways to make your wedding ceremony more personal and let who you are as a couple be shared with your audience, I highly recommend writing your own vows.
How do you get started?
Just sit down (separately!), make a list of the things you love about your future spouse. Write the fun things you do together, the moments you’ve loved, what you’re looking forward to. Let those words and memories flood the page and then read it. Read it a couple of times. Then leave the room and go do something else. Don’t let yourself get too overwhelmed. Just read it a few times and then take a break.
When you sit back down, read it once more.
Then pick up your pen or start typing or whatever it is you need to do to get it all down – I’m old school and still write everything down in my notepad.
One tip here – I wrote our vows on the back of the card his grandparents gave us. I thought it would be extra special as well as being a little more sturdy so while I was up there super nervous, it wouldn’t shake as badly. 😉
Start with their name. Taking a moment there to imagine yourself standing on the alter just looking at your soulmate in the very moment of your wedding.
I have ALL THE FEELS right now.
Saying their name and then pausing also gives you a minute to regroup and focus on then saying your vows.
Now, here’s the part where you go rogue.
I can’t tell you exactly word for word what to say. That’s individual to your relationship.
If you take that list of why you love them, how they make you a better person, bits of your story together and put them into a cohesive set of paragraphs, I promise, it’s going to be beautiful.
I’d be more than happy to help if you need more personalized advice or if you’d like to hear exactly what I wrote to Cody.
We actually have ours in our wedding video, so we’d be happy to share it if it’s something you guys would be interested in!
Let me know in the comments or on instagram.
All my love!
Check out these previous Wedding Wednesday by xo, chelsea catherine posts:
What Six Months of Marriage Has Taught Us
How To Work With Your Wedding DJ
Our Wedding Video
Bridal Beauty // My Wedding Day Makeup Look
Wedding Photography Guide Part Two
Wedding Photography Guide Part One
Beauty Tips Every Bride Needs to Know
Wedding Planning Check List
Splurge vs. Save
Where I Found My Bridesmaids’ Dresses
Wedding Day Details
How to Know When You’ve Found the One
Our Love Story | High School Sweethearts to Walking Down the Aisle
Wedding Dress Guide
Classic Style Engagement Shoot